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Golf and Parenting [27 Dec 2006|07:18pm]

Parenting is a lot like golf.

If you've ever swung a club even once on a public course, you know that everyone and anyone will give you unsolicited advice on it. "You're standing up too straight, bend your knees a bit..." or "You're not breaking your elbows at the right time, loosen up..."

The thing is, the people offering advice are rarely Tiger Woods... hell, most of them have swings that would make a good scratch golfer wince just to see.
But they're sure that they know exactly what you need to do to improve your game.

Parenting is a lot like that. Only worse.

Rest of the Rant behind the cut for bandwidth and due to x-postingCollapse )

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[21 Aug 2006|11:17am]

Hello everyone. My name is Christina and I'm a 20 year old psychology major at Illinois State University. I'm currently taking a Developmental Psychology of Adolescence course and one of our assignments is to get information from parents who are members of internet forums dealing with parenting. I know a lot of you have younger children, however, I can only use information about adolescents. If you have/have had an adolescent child, I would really appreciate it if you could answer the following questions. Thank you so much.

Age of adolescent:
1. What are the biggest joys, as well as challenges, in parenting teens?
2. What types of disputes do you experience with your teen?
3. What coping mechanisms do you use to deal with these disputes?
4. What are your feelings about your teen getting into steady romantic relationships? What guidelines or rules will you (or have you) established?
5. What are your feelings about your teen and part-time work?
6. What types of changes have your experienced as a result of parenting a teen?
7. What are your feelings about the friends of your teens? Do you have guidelines or expectancies that you share with your teen regarding their friends?
8. Do you feel that your teen respects your decisions? Why or why not?
9. Do you feel that being a teen is more or less stressful than your own teen experience?
10. What words of advice would you give to an individual just starting to parent a teen?

Thanks again!
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The Joys of Research [16 Aug 2005|08:52pm]

[ mood | frazzled ]

Do you ever wonder why you have at least three "baby's first year" books? It's so you can find the answers to easy questions. Take thrush, for example, one book tells you what you need to do in order to get rid of it, but not how to do it. For that, you need the second book. The third book, however, is the only one with any useful info on teething. It's enough to make me want to tear my hair out until I realize that I am an English teacher and actually enjoy research. That's the point where I grimly acknowledge that yes, I am going crazy.


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Help Needed! [16 Aug 2005|11:03am]

Gen is now awake most of the day and loves to play with her toys, both of which are great. Unfortunately, at 7 weeks, playing with toys usually involves batting them out of her reach and howling if somebody doesn't return them immediately, which is not so great. How do I get stuff done around the house without neglecting her?

Cross-Posted everywhere.
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Success! [16 Aug 2005|10:51am]

I finally found a daycare for Gen. Not only do they take drop-ins, but they are only 10 minutes away from my place. Unless I am going to South Bend or Raymond, it isn't even out of my way. Also, Alan's petitioning to get his schedule changed to 10-6. If he can get that approved, we are definitely set. I feel much less stressed now.

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Montessori Schools [10 Aug 2005|11:58am]

Does anyone know anything about Montessori schools? One of my doctors sends her child to the school near our home and scheduled an appointment for us to meet with the owner and the education director there.

I am completely ignorant of the Montessori philosophy. Does anybody have any information, good or bad?

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[05 Aug 2005|06:53am]

I just woke up....

Aidan is still sleeping. Aidan has been sleeping since just before 11pm last night. AIDAN SLEPT THROUGH THE NIGHT!!!!!
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Bathtime Fun [24 Jul 2005|08:22pm]

I just gave Gen her second bath in the babytub. This time she didn't fuss at all, even when I dared to soap her (last time I was more concerned with getting her used to it). Of course, now she's fussing. Figures.

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[24 Jul 2005|05:23pm]

[ mood | calm ]

It's not even 8:30 and both of my angels are asleep.
I have not been a single parent for long...one day actually.
Luckily, I'll only be a single parent until tomorrow night! hehe!
This is my first post to this community...and I just wanted to say "hey".

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Baby Blues [03 Jul 2005|08:43pm]

Does anybody have advice on how to cope with the so-called Baby Blues? For the last couple of days, I've been having spots of depression that last for an hour or so. So far, I don't think it's PPD, but I have depressive episodes anyway, so I am worried that things will escalate. I know that exhaustion is part of the problem (she's only 10 days old, and my class reunion was this weekend), and medication is not an option. I know how to deal with my normal depression, but since this is a bit different, I was wondering if anybody had any tips.

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Hello [28 Jun 2005|05:19pm]

I'm new, so I thought I'd introduce myself. I just turned 28, and have a brand new daughter, Genevieve. She was born on June 23rd at 10 lbs. 14.8 oz. Ouch! Needless to say, I had third degree tearing, and my hopes for a quick return to running are pretty much nill. I am recovering a lot faster than I thought I would, though, even if I can really feel my stitches at the moment. Anyway, I thought it would be nice to be part of a community where I could vent my frustrations and exclaim over the "miracles." So, here I am!
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Toddler Discipline [26 Jun 2005|01:16pm]

I need a quick course in anger management. Both for myself and for my son. His favorite way of expressing his rage right now is hitting. Oh yeah, and screaming. But he just clocked me in the head with one of his toys. This is the third time he has hurt me today.

I am not opposed to spanking or a hand slap. But in this instance - when I'm trying to teach him NOT to hit - I think that would send a confusing message.

I have tried time outs. That is about the best thing we have going so far. Or at least until he learns how to get out of the playpen. Keeping him in a chair just isn't happening.

I am open to any suggestions as to how to deal with a 19 month old who likes to hit in anger.


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WTF?? [25 Feb 2005|07:10pm]

[ mood | flabberghasted ]

my 18 month old usually goes to bed at 9pm. it is now 7:15 and he was sitting on my lap as normal, asked for water which I got for him, and sat back down with him, then he asked for bed, several times, then wiggled off my lap and went to his dark room and tried to climb into the crib. So I put him in it. he is now asleep. WTF is up with that, this is so weird, do other peoples kids do this?? Did I do right by letting him go ahead and go to sleep, or will he wake up super early in the morning now? he always wakes at 7:30 am.

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need advice. [23 Feb 2005|02:15pm]

I have searched the net to no avail on this one. Anyone know if it is bad to wake your toddler up from a nap. My son sleeps for 3 hours during the day sometimes, and some of those days I would like to get out earlier than 3 to run errands. I have read that for his age 1-2 hours is adequate time, but I would tend to think he would wake on his own when his body was ready.

any thoughts on this would help. Thanks in advance.

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Babysicle? [17 Feb 2005|09:41pm]

Here's a question for all of you other mommies of toddlers: What temperature do you keep your house, especially at night? Does it vary if you use a cool-mist humidifier in the baby's room? How many blankets do you use? How do you dress your baby?

I am worried because when he was newborn, we were told that the house had to be kept at about 70 degrees. But that was before he could use blankets. I'd like to lower the temperature in the house (our last heating bill over $200!), but I don't know how much. . . especially since his room always seems cooler than our room, which is where the thermostat is. Just to add more confusion, the humidifier makes it much cooler in his room - even if all the water is gone - just because the fan runs all the time.

Thanks for your help!
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[06 Feb 2005|04:12pm]

[ mood | horrified ]

am i the only one who finds this a bit warped? i don't know.. it bothers me.. a lot.

is this common?

Kate still breastfeeds her 5-and 7-year-old daughters. She came on the show to ask Dr. Phil how to stop giving in when her children ask to nurse. Read what Dr. Phil has to say.

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[03 Feb 2005|04:26pm]

[ mood | busy ]

alright mamas and mamas-to-be!

i have a simple task for you..

in one of my womens studies classes.. we were talking about my pregnancy.. and one girl mentioned the fact that you learn all kinds of secrets when you become pregnant/have children. i told her it was much like joining a secret club!

now.. my question for you is what was the one thing you learned about yourself and the world around you upon becoming pregnant and giving birth?

thanks ladies!

xposted everywhere ;P

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Fun Healthy Food [01 Feb 2005|11:46am]

I'm trying to help a friend of mine get suggestions for meals for his daughter. He's trying to improve her eating habits, and is at a loss trying to figure out food that she'll actually eat. His daughter is about 9 years old.

Thanks for your suggestions!

PS. If a recipe is required, please include!

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[31 Jan 2005|05:46pm]

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Bad Bad Bad Mommy!!! [29 Jan 2005|09:07pm]

God Help Me! I feel like such a bad mom. I don't know if I can even write this. As I sit at my computer, my son is standing in his crib screaming and crying uncontrollably. It is tearing me apart from the inside out.

He used to be such a good sleeper. He still is. But on his terms.

The last week (on top of all my work BS that's going on), he's been exceptionally needy during the night. We've spent 4 of the last 5 nights sleeping on his floor with him. [GOD, I can't do this with him screaming like that!]

He will fall asleep in our arms in a heartbeat. Sound asleep. But as soon as we put him down, the screaming and crying begins. We initially blamed it on teething - he is getting in some pretty big molars. But that's not realistic. He's not uncomfortable during the day, and he only cries once he's put down.

Then I thought it must be his mattress. Maybe it smelled of urine or something unpleasant. So we flipped it and changed the sheets. It didn't make a difference.

We have solved this during the week by pulling him out of his crib, holding him and sleeping next to him on the floor. He will sleep through the night on the floor next to us. He doesn't even have to be held or touching us. He's okay once he's out of the crib. He sleeps very soundly on the floor next to us. But God help you if you get up after 2 hours of that (once your limbs become numb and your joints get stiff) and try to put him back in the crib. He wakes up instantly and starts screaming all over again.

Because this is a weekend and I don't have to worry about being fired tomorrow if I'm groggy and incoherent, we have decided tonight - after four failed attempts to put his sleeping body in his crib - to let him cry it out. The Big Guy and I have both set timers for 10 minutes. (There are 4 minutes left). I have never been a fan of letting him "cry it out", but I don't know what else to do. His crying is tearing my heart out.

Please HELP!!!!!!!!!
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